Five things you should never say to a pregnant woman

I am always amazed at the comments people make to me because I am pregnant with twins. It's like they just don't have a filter. I asked some of my other friends who are preggers if they have experienced the same and it turns out I am not alone. So we compiled this list of things you should never say to a pregnant woman.

1. Are you sure you aren't having twins?  Or any comment about a pregnant woman's size, large or small.

Would you normally comment on a woman's weight? I hope not. Pregnant women are especially sensitive about their size. We worry if we are gaining too much or too little and how that weight gain will affect our growing baby.

Your best bet? Tell her she looks great!

2. You're just pregnant. This comment usually is made by a man.

We're not just pregnant. We are growing life inside of us. It takes a lot out of us.  Between the first trimester morning sickness and the third trimester aches and pains, it isn't an easy task. Pregnant women deserve a medal.

Your best bet? Tell her she looks great and offer her some ice cream.

3.  Speaking of aches and pains. If you ask a pregnant woman how she is feeling and she is actually honest and admits to her misery, don't respond with "well you asked for it'.

I can honestly say that I did not ask for it. I did not ask to be put on bedrest at 28 weeks. I didn't ask to cry every not before bed because everything hurts. I certainly didn't ask to have trouble breathing. I asked for a baby and I was lucky enough to be blessed with two miracles and I will suffer through to bring my two miracles into the world.

You best bet? You look great and you're doing a great job. Can I get you some ice cream?

4.  Are you sure you should be eating that?

Unless you are the pregnant woman's doctor, there isn't any need to comment on her diet.

Your best bet? That's right, You look great, can I get you some ice cream?

5. If you find out a woman is pregnant with multiples. Don't respond with "better you than me" or any other similar negative comment.

Multiples just mean multiple blessings. Sure the thought can be overwhelming at times, but how is your negative comment helpful.

You best bet? You look great, how about a double scoop if ice cream?

What were some comments that drove you crazy during your pregnancy?  What are your favorite comebacks?

32 Weeks

Another week down, we have made it to 32 weeks.  If I wasn't so big I do a little dance. According to babycenter.com the babies should weigh about 3.75 pounds, but we know from last week that they way a little bit more than that. I should be gaining about a pound a week, and half of that should go to word the babies. Hopefully with twins that doesn't mean I will pounds a week with each of them gaining half a pound. That would give me about 13 pounds worth of babies at 37 weeks.  I won't have another ultrasound for 4 more weeks, so I probably won't know their final wait until delivery day. I am still hoping to make it to 37 weeks but I'm not sure if my body can handle it.  They have toenails fingernails and real hair now.

32 Weeks
Total weight gain: 33 pounds
Maternity Clothes? Yes, since I am at home all the time I live in Michael's t-shirts and boxers
Stretch Marks? A few on my hips.
Sleep? I miss sleep. Some nights I just cry.
 Best Moment this week? Getting my maternity photos
Miss Anything? Cold Cuts, Sleep
 Food Craving? Candy
 Gender prediction? One of each. I was right!
 Labor Signs? I think I am occasionally experiencing Braxton Hicks contractions
 Symptoms? The worst this week has been pain in the ribs from them kicking and the shortness of breath
Belly Button in or out? Starting to pop out a little.
 Wedding rings on or off? On
Happy or Moody most of the time? Happy, nervous
 Looking forward to? Making it to week 33

25 Weeks

For some reason I have been obsessed with the thought of stretch marks this week, wondering if I will avoid them. I took a poll on one of Twin Mom groups and there were a few moms who said they didn't get any, but most said they did end up with them. I know it is a silly thing to worry about but I do. I can't help it with my body image issues.  Will I ever wear a bikini again?  If I do get them I should wear them with pride, they will by my badge of honor. I will be a tiger mom who earned her stripes. There are plenty of women out there who would give anything to have the stretch marks for a baby in return.

This past week I had my first crazy birth dream.  I dreamed I gave birth to two miniature sumo wrestlers. They were both boys, one was black and one was white. They were babies, but looked like little men.  I kept telling the doctors that something wasn't right, I was supposed to have a girl but no one would listen. They wouldn't even fit into their infant car seats.  It was so crazy and vivid!

This week is week 25, Every week gets harder but I am also so very happy that Robbie and Rylee are still cooking and doing well. I am always amazed when I catch a glimpse of my growing belly, sometimes it doesn't seem real. It's important to never give up hope.

According to Babycenter.com they should weigh about 1.5 pounds, but they are probably a little bit over that now. They're exchanging their long lean looks for some baby fat and are looking more and more like their newborn selves. They are also growing more hair! If they have it! I was born with a head full of hair.

25 Weeks
Total weight gain: 27 pounds
Maternity Clothes? Yes! They are cute and comfy.
Stretch Marks? No, moisturizing three times a day. I'm doing a combination of cocoa butter and vitamin E
Sleep? I have seen 2 am three times this week
Best Moment this week? We went to see Iron Man 3
Miss Anything? Chicken and wine
Food Craving? Fruit Salad from Publix (watermelon, strawberries, grapes, honey dew and cantaloupe)
Anything making you queasy or sick? Nothing this week!
Gender prediction? One of each.I was right!
Labor Signs? No and hopefully not for a very long time.
Symptoms? Shortness of breath, itchy stomach (not scratching though), heart palpitations
Belly Button in or out? Kind of flat
Wedding rings on or off? On but it keeps slipping off.
Happy or Moody most of the time? Happy and a little scared.
Looking forward to? 5 days off from work

23 Weeks

23 Weeks, about 14 more weeks to go! WooHoo!  According to BabyCenter.com the twinjas are 11 inches long and weight a little over a pound, but at my amazing ultrasound yesterday I found out they weigh 1 1/2 pounds. They are about the size of a grapefruit. Babies are doing great and everything looks great. I'm doing well too!  It was so nice being able to see the babies, even though I had been able to feel them the past week.  I could have spent all afternoon watching them kick each other. Baby Girl wasn't so shy this week and we actually got some pretty good profile shots of her.  Baby Boy was a ham a usual.  He turned his face towards us and crossed his arms in an X.

The babies sense of movement is developed now so if I want to dance around to Prince, they can feel me move. Their blood vessels in the lungs are developing to prepare for breathing and they are hearing more noises outside of the womb. They can also dream during their time asleep.

23 Weeks
Total weight gain: 23 pounds (doing good with gaining a pound a week, scary but anything for my babies)
Maternity Clothes? Yes! They are cute and comfy.
Stretch Marks? No, moisturizing three times a day
Sleep?It's difficult but I get my best sleep the nights Michael rubs my feet.
Best Moment this week? Seeing the babies on the ultrasound and watching them kick each other.
Miss Anything? Chicken
Food Craving? Spinach and Artichoke Dip
Anything making you queasy or sick? Nothing this week!
Gender prediction? One of each.I was right!
Labor Signs? No and hopefully not for a very long time.
Symptoms? Shortness of breath, itchy stomach (not scratching though), heart palpitations
Belly Button in or out? Kind of flat
Wedding rings on or off? On but it keeps slipping off.
Happy or Moody most of the time? Happy
Looking forward to? Mother's Day!

22 Weeks

Sorry for no update last week, I was fighting a nasty cold barely made it out of the bed all week.

Week 22 has been a great one so far.  Baby kicks are the most amazing thing. Whenever I am having a bad, one of the babies will kick me and I can't help but smile. I have two little miracles growing inside of me, life can't be too bad.  The other night I had a Slurpee and the Twinjas went crazy, kicking up a storm.  Caleb and I could actually see the kicks.  Michael was at work so he missed it :(

This week the babies are about 11 inches long and should weigh about 1 pound each, about the size of a papaya. They're starting to look more like their newborn selves. They are sleeping in cycles for 12 - 14 hours a day.

Mommy is doing well I have more energy, but I am more uncomfortable.  It is harder to do things, like picking up things off the floor when I drop it or getting clothes out of the washer machine.  By the time dinner time comes around I feel like I don't have any room left for food. Sometimes I have trouble catching my breath.


22 Weeks
Total weight gain: 21 pounds (doing good, 24 pounds by 24 weeks reduces the chances of preterm labor)
Maternity Clothes? Yes! I'm embracing the bump, while it is still cute
Stretch Marks? No, moisturizing three times a day
Sleep?Still hard finding a comfortable position to sleep in.
Best Moment this week? Babies kicking
Miss Anything? Sleeping through the night
Food Craving? Spinach and Artichoke Dip
Anything making you queasy or sick? Nothing this week!
Gender prediction? One of each.I was right!
Labor Signs? No and hopefully not for a very long time.
Symptoms? Shortness of breath
Belly Button in or out? Kind of flat
Wedding rings on or off? On but it keeps slipping off.
Happy or Moody most of the time? Happy
Looking forward to? Designing the nursery.

20 Weeks

20 weeks and the big news is that we are expecting a little girl and a little boy! I couldn't be more thrilled to have  my perfect pairs. Dreams can come true! Baby 1, (my camera shy one) is the girl and Baby 2, (my little show off) is the boy. I had to rush our last night and buy them outfits, not their first ones, my sister beat me to that.

Here are same pictures from the party.

So how are the babies this week? If they were singletons then they would be about 10 1/2 ounces in weight and 6 1/2 inches long from head to rump, about the size of a banana. Their swallowing more now. Their taste buds are working now too.

How's Mommy?  I am feeling fine? No new symptoms.  I have a little bit more energy, but I still feel worn out by the end of the day. But that is better than being worn out by 3.  I have a few new symptoms to look forward to. Leg cramps, heart burn, shortness of breath, mild swelling, 

How far along? 20

20 Weeks
Total weight gain: 19 pounds
Maternity Clothes? Yes! Maternity dresses are really cute.
Stretch Marks? No, moisturizing three times a day
Sleep? It's already difficult finding positions to sleep in. But I am staying up until 9 most night now!
Best Moment this week? Gender reveal party!
Miss Anything? Chicken
Food Craving? Nachos
Anything making you queasy or sick? Nothing this week!
Gender prediction? One of each.I was right!
Labor Signs? No and hopefully not for a very long time.
Symptoms? Fatigue, cramping, break outs
Belly Button in or out? Kind of flat
Wedding rings on or off? On but it keeps slipping off.
Happy or Moody most of the time? Happy
Looking forward to? Working the nursery

19 weeks

I am 19 weeks, almost 5 months and halfway through! If the babies were singletons they would weigh about 8 ounces. At my 18 week 4 day appointment the twins were about 5 ounces, so they are probably 6-7 ounces now. Their brains are developing their senses and they can hear my heart beat and voice. I read that if you sing the same song when they are born they recognize the tune. I sing You Are My Sunshine to them every night.

I am experiencing round ligament pain and leg cramps.

Last week I had an ultrasound and will post the pictures soon


How far along? 19 Weeks
Total weight gain: 16 pounds (I am a little behind schedule)
Maternity Clothes? Yes! jeans are hard to find in tall sizes so I just went up a size.
Stretch Marks? No, moisturizing three times a day
Sleep? It's already difficult finding positions to sleep in. But I am staying up until 9 most night now!
Best Moment this week? My ultrasound and seeing my babies.
Miss Anything? Still cocktails and cold cuts
Food Craving? Nachos
Anything making you queasy or sick? I have had nausea once this week
Gender prediction? One of each.
Labor Signs? No and hopefully not for a very long time.
Symptoms? Fatigue, cramping
Belly Button in or out? Still but starting to change shape.
Wedding rings on or off? On but it keeps slipping off.
Happy or Moody most of the time? Happy
Looking forward to? Gender Reveal Party on Saturday finally finding out what they are!

9 Weeks!

I've made it to month three and the babies are no longer embryos they have graduated to fetus status!  Their about the size of grapes and measure .9 inches and weigh .07 ounces. They no longer have tails (supposedly, but I'm not sure they aren't aliens I haven't wanted one drop of chocolate since I have been pregnant).  They have tiny earlobes and the mouth, nose and nostrils are more distinct.

As for me, my all day sickness is more intense, I spend a lot of time in the work bathroom.  I'm still quite moody, easily irritated.  It kind of makes working in a call center challenging.

Weekly Status Check


How far along? 9 Weeks
Total weight gain: 0
Maternity Clothes? Still no, but I did wear my belly band twice last week
Stretch Marks? No
Sleep? Still tired, but find it hard to sleep
Best Moment this week? Finally scheduling my first OB/GYN appointment
Miss Anything? The energy to do the things I need to do.
Food Craving?Pickles, I know it is such a cliche.
Anything making you queasy or sick? Still sick all day.
Gender prediction? I am going with one of each
Labor Signs? No and hopefully not for a very long time.
Symptoms? Sore boobs, tired, nausea, crazy dreams, bloating and constipation.
Belly Button in or out? In.
Wedding rings on or off? On.
Happy or Moody most of the time? Moody.
Looking forward to? Ultrasound on Tuesday, bringing my mom with us :)